Here's How:



1.   Simply say, ―I’m sorry. I can't accomplish this right now.‖ Utilize a likable, but firm tone. If forced as to why, answer that it doesn’t fit with your schedule, and switch the subject. Most fair individuals will take this as an answer, so if somebody keeps forcing you, they’re being ill-mannered, and it’s OK to just restate, ―I’m sorry, but this just doesn’t fit with my agenda," and switch the subject, or even walk off if you have to.



2.   If you’re uncomfortable being so strong, or are dealing with aggressive individuals, it’s OK to state, ―Let me consider it and get back to you.‖ This gives you a opportunity to review your schedule, as well as your feelings about stating "uh-huh" to another commitment, do a cost-benefit analysis, and then get back to them with a yes or no. Above all, this maneuver helps you avoid letting yourself be forced into over scheduling your life and taking on too much tension.



3.   If you'd really like to do what they’re calling for, but don’t have the time (or are having difficulty accepting that you don’t), it’s fine to



state, ―I can’t do this, but I can…‖ and bring up a lesser commitment that you are able to make. This way you’ll still be partly involved, but it will be on your own conditions.